Meditation Column: Taking a little break goes a long way in resolving conflict

As we raise our awareness, we become more conscious of our conflicts and realize just how many conflicts are created solely by our minds and not by what is really happening.

By Patrick Kelly

Conflict: A state of opposition to another being or situation that causes discomfort or motivates us to lead a battle, a struggle between opposing people or quite often a controversy stirred up by our minds when we are not in agreement with the way things are.

Walking up includes observations of your conflicts. You hear it all the time: “I don’t like this. I don’t like that. They shouldn’t be doing that. Why are we doing this? Why does this have to be like that? How come this is like this? Why do things go the way they do? Why are people so cruel and thoughtless? Why do we have to die…?” It seems we have many conflicts with many things. Conflict includes a lack of understanding, knowledge and of course, acceptance. We lack understanding of what is truly going on around us — which includes the natural cycles of nature and the universe. We lack the knowledge of how many situations are unfolding around us, despite human intervention or a perceived result, which is merely mind made. Finally, the most challenging for most of us is a lack of acceptance of what is based on universal truths and unquestionable realities. As we raise our awareness, as we wake up, we become more conscious of our conflicts and realize just how many conflicts are created solely by our minds and not by what is really happening.

It goes on in our relationships, almost hand in hand with expectation; we expect something, people fail and a conflict occurs about how they are or what they are doing. It is OK if this goes on, we wouldn’t want to add conflict to our observations; however, be aware of when your understanding becomes a source of negativity. As the student learns to identify the different aspects of their own personality and mindset (with an awareness of self-judgment), change comes on its own. Your conflict with the cycle of life and death will diminish as you move forward toward accepting things for what they are.

A simple meditation, here and there, throughout your day, when it comes to your mind or not: bring your attention to a happening or a situation unfolding before you that causes you conflict. Take a moment to review what is going on. For example, you may wonder why the cheese gets moldy when you leave it on that shelf. No matter how many times you leave it there and attempt to figure it out, it still will get moldy on that shelf. Drop the question, the conflict, only then will you know what to do and change will come without effort.

It’s a new day, your day… ••

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